I believe that one of the most important ingredients of a successful relationship, transaction or union is COMMUNICATION. In many broken homes today, different reasons may be considered as factors that eventually led to the disputes. For some, it's because the husband keeps late night, and gives different excuses every night... "yesterday, it's a meeting. Today, it's traffic, then what happens tomorrow?"... Initially, these excuses would've been overlooked if it's well communicated to the other party early enough.
For many reasons, communication can give a positive effect on relationships and save bonds as well. Imagine this case, a few weeks ago, I had an appointment with one of my highly esteemed clients who works with MTN, Wharf, though i was around Yaba. Then received a call from my fiance requesting to go to the movies with me at a nearby Cinema. First, i thought it was impossible because i was just about 75mins to my appointment, then i thought it wise to call the gentle man i was to meet with and reschedule for another time. Luckily for me he too wasn't at the office, so we agreed to meet two days later. So i got a text from my fiance to be at the cinema at exactly 5mins to 6pm so we can catch the movie. I got there 30mins earlier, then i tried calling my babe to let her know i was already in the building, i was so surprised when i called about 20 times and she didn't to pick my calls. Well, i thought she was doing that because she was already close to the venue. Then, later the movie started! I'm still out there waiting! Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... Waiting... At a point i started feeling uncomfortable as i tried calling again. The phone rang endlessly, and because i was provoked by what was happening i decided to stop calling and wait for her to just come down and explain herself...
I had waited 2hrs before i started getting worried as to what may have happened to her because even at that time i continued calling and she wasn't just picking my calls! I had been waiting since 5:30pm and it was almost 10:00pm. I started panicking, but really, what can i do? I'm on this side of the phone and she's on the other end, so i didn't have a clue what was happening at that time. "...has her phone been stolen?...", "...what is going on?..." "...or is she... no way! It can't be what i'm thinking!..." i thought to my self. Eventually, the restaurant which i was waiting at began packing and was ready to close. At that point, i was extremely depressed! I just had to go on home and hope everything was OK!
Later that night, at about 10:45pm someone flashed me! I quickly grabbed my phone and found out she was the one. Instantly, i dialled her number. She picks my call with an extremely "calm" voice; "Hello, dear. How you dey?" she said. I was dumbfounded when i heard her say these words. "Honey, where have you been, and what has been happening to you?" i requested angrily. She gave me an explanation that wasn't really getting into me. She explained that she was in a meeting in school and she couldn't pick my calls, blah, blah, blah... I didn't just know what to say. As a man, i just had to drop the case because and let it fly 'cos at a point it was becoming a pointless argument. If she had called me to let me know that she wasn't going to make it, i'd have just gone home and have a good time resting and probably watching tv or something. So, to allow peace reign, i just had to drop the case because i didn't want to flog the matter any further.
If you communicate before hand, it helps you gain integrity and allows you to gain respect from friends, loved ones and anyone you come in contact with. Try it today! Pick up that phone and do the right thing... You'll be glad you did. ;)
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